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12/3/2012

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I did this sort of topic once in the very beginning of the blog, but I wanted to do it again because it's my blog and I can vent when I want to. You would vent too if it happened to you.

As some of you may know, I'm going to be in a couple of weddings this summer. Dress shopping as the biggest girl has reminded me of the fact that I am A BIG GIRL. It's taken a sledgehammer to my self esteem. So for all the skinny people out there, THIS is what I and my fellow fat people have to deal with. Keep this in mind when trying to shove us in to dresses with all your skinny friends.

CLOTHES
Clothing and I have a love/hate relationship. I love cute clothes and the people that make the cute clothes hate fat people. They HATE us. To make matters even worse, skinny people DON'T GET IT. "I can fit into EVERYTHING, so why can't you?" Because I'm fat with big boobs! No, I can't fit into that God forsaken dress! Since when is a size L THAT SMALL?!

I had an absolutely wonderful experience the other day. One of my best friends is getting married and I'm one of the "groomswomen." His bride-to-be has been looking at dresses for the other groomswomen and I to wear. I've already had to have the "big boob" talk with her about how large breasts must have enough fabric to cover them in a dress. The other two groomswomen are large chested like me (at a D I'm the small one). However, they're also skinny whereas I am the fat friend. We finally found a dress that we all liked and they only go up to an L which is APPARENTLY a size 10-12. That ain't happening. So I got to give her the "I am fat" talk complete with my measurements because having to cry at my desk feeling like a fat slob wasn't enough of an embarrassment.

She couldn't seem to understand at first why the dress wouldn't work since it's stretchy and that maybe they could take it out. First of all, no dress is stretching SIX inches and looking good. Second, you can't magically add fabric to a stretchy dress to let it out. It doesn't work like that.

It's not her fault I'm fat and it's not her fault she doesn't get it because she's never had to be fat or well endowed. Her and my skinny friends will NEVER understand.

So remember people, fat people need more fabric.

BEING THE FAT FRIEND
Being the fat one in the group SUCKS. It sucks hardcore. I've had guys become my "friend" for the sole purpose of trying to get with SC. Here's a tip, boys: FUCK OFF. Grow a pair and go talk to her instead of using me.

My skinny friends also just CANNOT understand that I am FAT. "No, you're not fat." Bitch please. I can see myself and I can read a scale. I am FAT. I didn't say I was ugly, I didn't say I wasn't awesome (I am), and I didn't say I wasn't sexy. I'm fat and it's clear as day. QUIT BABYING ME AND LIVING IN DENIAL. I pride myself in being able to put myself in another person's place and to be able to get where they're coming from. WHY CAN'T YOU GET THAT I AM FAT?!

Going to the mall sucks. I might seriously stop going clothing shopping with SC and DF. They can go into Forever 21, Wet Seal, and ANYWHERE and find clothes. I get to tag along and get glares from the store workers because I can't fit into anything at their store. "Quit glaring, you're just jealous cuz you're flat chested!" I get bored and I feel like a COW. I leave the mall feeling like never eating again. Then when there's a store that I can fit in, they're bored and uninterested.

It's even MORE awesome when you also can't keep up with everyone else. I will avoid going places and doing things because I hate slowing down the group. I'm fat and I sweat, no I will not go for a hike, thank you though. And they JUST DON'T GET IT. "C'mon, it'll be fun!" How am I supposed to respond to your skinny ass that I am FAT and I can't GO THAT FAR and that my added layers make me SWEAT and I won't have fun because all that I'll be able to think about is how out of breath I am and how much I'm holding you back. GO ON WITHOUT ME.

THE DOCTOR
Ah yes, the doctor. The only other person that will acknowledge that I'm fat. I swear to GOD if I get one more weight loss lecture from them I'll scream. They should include that on my chart. "Already fat-shamed."

So there you have it, folks. I'm fat and I'm clearly angry about it right now. No, don't comment and tell me how awesome I am and how I can lose weight. Instead, maybe try to get people to understand what it's like being bigger and maybe, just maybe, don't belittle or discriminate against larger people. Even at my smallest I will still be a "larger" size. It's who I am. So take it or leave it.

<3 - CFC
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Friendy-friend
12/3/2012 02:42:55 pm

Oooooh girl, I'm SO in agreement! Forever 21 pisses me off! I went in there looking for pants once just to check it out. I noticed that I could only find up to a size 10, so I asked the girl working what size they go up to. Her response? "Um....yeaaaaaahhhhh, we actually sell our plus-sizes online, but....I just don't knooowwwwww if they'd work out for you." Stupid. So I look online. Biggest size? 10. Ugh. I've found that sticking to Maurices, Torrid, Vanity, and the VERY occasional Lane Bryant is where I live from.

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CFC link
12/4/2012 05:58:01 am

People at store can be VERY rude to bigger girls. Not only is it mean and poor customer service, but it's very discriminatory.

I'm sorry they were jerks. :( They lose a lot of business not catering to people of all sizes.

Maurice's is A-MAZING. I also like Charlotte Russe sometimes. I LOVE Kohl's, Fred Meyer, and Target as well. :) Torrid is too expensive for me, lol. :)

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Fellow fat girl
12/4/2012 11:23:08 am

I have to agree with you! I have also found that some stores are taking their plus size and sticking it in the basement corner where no one shops and some have even gone as far as separating it to it's own store. It almost feels like they are saying that because you are fat you should shop where no one can see you.

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CFC
12/4/2012 12:20:55 pm

I think they just want to make sure their clothes are worn by the type of people they want to attract.

So yes, it seems like they want the fat people to shop with other fat people and they're jerks for it.

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Tami link
12/10/2012 09:18:36 am

I have struggled with my weight since about the age of 10 so all of this is so familiar to me. It's so odd to me that alot of people think that just because a woman is fat, or chunky, or big, or big boned, or chubby,or fluffy or pleasantly plump or whatever one calls herself, that we don't have feeling and we can't see and hear the stupid comments or the assumptions made about us. We are not all lonely and desperate and hungry all the time. We don't want a man that is gonna like us or be attracted to us just because he has a fetish and is a chubby chaser. Oh wait, we have to grab onto a man that shows interest because we can't find any better right? Well my answer to that is a huge (pun intended) HELL NO!!! We want to dress cute too and have fun like you little skinny hefers so don't think you know anything about the way we feel unless and until you have been overweight, and I'm not talking about "OMG, I am up to 125 pounds!" That is not fat! The average size for a woman nowadays is a size 14 but we are so saturated with airbrushed twigs that most don't know that. Be proud of who you are and what size you are doesn't matter. My big bear of a man loves me even more since I have gained an additional 15 lbs since I met him two years ago. He is attracted to my big ass and I love him for it. Love yourselves ladies and don't let anyone put you down.

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CFC link
12/10/2012 09:28:29 am

More power to you, Tami!!!!!!!!!

Frustrated Fat Girl
12/10/2012 09:16:00 am

I totally sympathize with your rant!! Skinny friends will NEVER understand what it means to be fat. I have been known to say to more than one skinny friend that has just lamented that she is so fat "B*tch, if you're fat then what am I an orca?!?" This usually helps to put it into perspective for them.

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CFC link
12/10/2012 09:29:08 am

I get that and have TOTALLY said that.

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clh9451
12/10/2012 11:22:59 am

100% agree. Why do fat clothes look like we are 80. Why isn't there sexy bigger clothes not to make u look trashy though.

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Cfc
12/10/2012 12:20:09 pm

There are some stores! Maurice's, Torrid, and sometimes Lane Bryant have good ones!

But yes, I don't wanna dress like an 80 year old...

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Julie
12/10/2012 02:19:16 pm

I am also a plus size woman. I am 52 years old, a young widow, who is trying to start dating again after 33 years with a skinny man who loved my curves. I don't remember ever being a size 10 and frankly don't care to. If a man can't accept me the way I am then they can bite my a**. I love sexy underwear and like to dress a little sexy and in style but its hard to find these things. CATO's is one of the places I find some cute things. I have found a man who loves to look and touch my body and he's not a chubby chaser. He just knows that women come in all sizes and skinny girls are not sexy to him.

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CFC link
12/12/2012 04:10:21 am

D: That encourages and saddens me all at once. I'm sorry for your loss. :(

And more power to those men in your life! We are DAMN FINE just the way we are!!!!

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Mandy
12/10/2012 04:58:30 pm

I so know what you mean! I'm always fat, awesome, but fat nevertheless. Everything you just typed in your blog, I get. I understand. I HATE going into stores. Plus I hate trying things on and not having them fit the right way or not fitting at all. It really sucks and thats why I hate shopping for clothes. I love and hate it. Even shoes give me a pain sometimes, because I have wide feet. All well.. we're awesome. Luckily, I have an amazing husband that reminds me all the time that I'm sexy and beautiful. But sometimes I just feel like never eating again lol.

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CFC link
12/12/2012 04:12:37 am

I too have wide feet. I'm also a size ten, which sucks.

I know what you mean! I recently had a friend send over a link for a dress. I'm going to be a "groomsmen" in her wedding and she's been trying to find us dresses. She's skinny, so first I had to give her the big boob talk and then we finally found an awesome dress and it didn't come in my size. I cried so hard when I saw that in the link and didn't want to eat a thing afterwards, I felt so fat and gross.

But we are AWESOME and must NEVER forget that!

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Adriana
12/12/2012 06:55:58 am

I know how u feel I cant ever go shopping wit friends the only two peoples I can go shopping wit nt make feel ashamed of being fat girl is my mom and my lil sis and she nt fat . She always had my back. Im proud of who im a beautiful big girl. Thank for make this blog

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CFC link
12/13/2012 03:18:22 am

That's right! Be proud of who you are!!!

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